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  • Writer's pictureDavid Carlson

Day 254 Nov 25, 2020: "I am I, and you are you and we are both each other."

Our friend and mentor Hank Mattimore is passing slowly away. AS chair of the Sonoma County Juvenile Justice Commission he advocated for children, juveniles in detention and parents in need. His fan club is huge. Hank finds the presence of God in the ordinary things of daily life - "from the yearning of a foster child for the dad he never had, to the sound of waves lapping against the shore and the magic of a stranger's kindness. He takes his inspiration not as much from the dogmas of organized religion as from the miracles of everyday life. It is here, in the present and in the faces of children that he finds the God of loveliness." He writes and lives wisely - living and acting for the radical kinship we so desire. He writes:

Racially we are a rainbow of colors but we all bleed red. Religiously, we worship in different temples and churches but reverence the same higher power. When a baby cries, we pay attention, whether the infant is born in Brooklyn or Guatemala. We know what it is to lose a loved one. Our hearts are touched at weddings or graduations.

The most important thing in the world for us is to see our children succeed in life. We yearn to live in peace with our brothers and sisters. In the deepest recesses of our hearts we long to love and be loved.

"I am I, and you are you and we are both each other."

I'm struck by the humble words he shared with us on Facebook about his death:

All my life I thought that the best way to die is quickly via an accident or sudden heart attack. But here I am leaving my life on earth rather slowly on hospice and receiving palliative care.

But you know what? I find it satisfying to be able to contact old friends and say my farewells and ask their forgiveness or thank them for being part of my life. I am also experiencing firsthand the love my kids and grandkids are showing me. It’s not all bad dying a little bit at a time. I see it now with a different perspective and am grateful for the opportunity to go slowly and consciously into a new life.

- Hank Mattimore

Comments from Hank's Facebook page:

I love you. The power of your love and sincere friendship will outlive us both. I’ve shared the stories of our meeting and the thoughtful ways you befriended me and later spoke up for me. My children know of your deeds and I’m sure their’s will as well. Thank you for taking the time to see and encourage potential in a poor, fatherless, skinny, Black kid. God bless you.

- Alonzo

Thank you for being part of my life Hank at a very vulnerable time when I just lost my husband and had a young son to raise on my own. Your wit and wisdom always shone a light in my darkest times. So thanks. Your loving forgiveness of the kids you worked with was a lesson to me. Just love them. "Ya grows or ya dies" sums you up - because you've taught me Hank life is a choice - you can grow or die. You have continued to grow always... because of this Hank Mattimore, your spirit will never die. Thank you for shining your light on me and my son Liam. Even all the way across the Pacific in Australia x

- Helen

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Northern California Sabeel Webinar December 15th

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Mother to Son

Well, son, I’ll tell you:

Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.

It’s had tacks in it,

And splinters,

And boards torn up,

And places with no carpet on the floor—


But all the time

I’se been a-climbin’ on,

And reachin’ landin’s,

And turnin’ corners,

And sometimes goin’ in the dark

Where there ain’t been no light.

So boy, don’t you turn back.

Don’t you set down on the steps

’Cause you finds it’s kinder hard.

Don’t you fall now—

For I’se still goin’, honey,

I’se still climbin’,

And life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.



The Impossible Dream - Cynthia Erivo

Leann Rimes sings Billy Joel's 'Lullabye (Goodnight, My Angel)

"Day By Day" ~ Godspell (1973)

NorCal Sabeel Presents Webinar
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