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980: "In this moment of tragedy, we mourn with those who mourn, and weep with those who weep"

Updated: Nov 22, 2022

Day 980: Monday, November 21, 2022

"In this moment of tragedy, we mourn with those who mourn, and weep with those who weep,"

Five people were killed and 25 were injured just before midnight on November 19 in Colorado Springs after a gunman opened fire on the crowd in a club before being stopped a few minutes later by others in the crowd who grabbed his weapon and beat him, authorities said. Club regulars and newcomers — gay and straight, transgender and cisgender — flocked to Club Q over the weekend to dance, enjoy a comedy show or work behind the bar. What began as a typical Saturday evening of dancing and drinking at the preeminent LGBTQ establishment in the conservative-leaning Colorado city south of Denver ended in tragedy when a gunman entered and began spraying bullets before he was tackled and subdued.

We remember and mourn:

Daniel Aston

Daniel Aston, 28, grew up in Tulsa, Oklahoma and moved to be closer to family in Colorado Springs two years ago. He worked as a bartender and entertainer at Club Q and cherished the venue as a sanctuary where as a transgender man he could be himself and perform to a lauding audience, his mother Sabrina Aston told The Associated Press.

The self-proclaimed “Master of Silly Business,” Aston had a propensity for making others laugh that started as a child when he would don elaborate costumes and write plays acted out by neighborhood kids. In college, where he was president of his school's LGBTQ club, he put on fundraisers with ever-more flashy productions.

″(Daniel’s shows) are great. Everybody needs to go see him,” his mother said. “He lit up a room, always smiling, always happy and silly,” she said.

The Diocese of Oakland, California, issued a statement of support for those suffering after a Nov. 19 attack on an LGBTQ nightclub in Colorado. But many Catholics, including Deacon Rob Federle of the Oakland Diocese tweeted the opposite. Here's the story:

Mary Pezzulo explained Nov. 21 what happened when a friend took to Twitter:

"I have a friend who is transgender: a gentle, empathetic, compassionate person, a Catholic who goes to Mass every Sunday, and a person who suffers from depression and suicidal thoughts. All he said on social media, in response to the shooting, was 'being LGBT hurts.' And a total stranger, Deacon Rob Federle of the Oakland Diocese tweeted him with 'Being gravely disordered shouldn't be a piece of cake.'"

The Oakland Diocese tweeted a response of its own Nov. 21, saying the head of the diocese, Bishop Michael Barber, was asking all for prayers and support for the LGBTQ community and those who rushed in to help after the attack, emphasizing the deacon had made the comment "on his personal Twitter account."

The diocese noted that the original post by Federle "is not representative of the Church's teachings," adding a screenshot of his Twitter account that said: "I apologize for the post I made Sunday following the tragedy in Colorado Springs, Colorado. It lacked Christian charity and is not befitting of an ordained clergy, or of anyone who professes to be a follower of Jesus Christ."

Bishop Barber said: "As Christians, we are called to witness to the dignity of all human life. In this moment of tragedy, we mourn with those who mourn, and weep with those who weep," Barber said.

Derrick Rump

Derrick Rump, 38, a bartender at Club Q, was remembered as a loving person with a quick wit who adopted his friends as his family.

“He was living his dream and he would have wanted everyone to do the same,” said his mother, Julia Thames, who confirmed his death to ABC News.

“He was always there for my daughter and myself when we needed him; also his friends from Colorado, which he would say was his family also,” she said in the statement.

Rump’s friend, Anthony Jaramillo, told CBS News that Rump was “loving, supportive, with a heavy hand in his drink pouring, and just a really good listener and would not be afraid to tell you when you were wrong instead of telling you what you wanted to hear and that was really valuable.”

Kelly Loving

Kelly Loving, 40, had been talking to a friend on a FaceTime call from inside Club Q just minutes before the shooting started. Natalee Skye Bingham told The New York Times that the last thing she said to Loving was: “Be safe. I love you.”

“She was like a trans mother to me. I looked up to her,” Bingham said. “In the gay community you create your families, so it’s like I lost my real mother almost.”

Bingham, 25, said Loving had only recently moved to Denver and was visiting the club while on a weekend trip to Colorado Springs.

“She was a tough woman,” Bingham said. “She taught me how it was to be a trans woman and live your life day to day.”

Loving’s sister, Tiffany Loving, offered condolences to the families who lost loved ones in the shooting as well as those struggling for acceptance in the world.

“My sister was a good person. She was loving and caring and sweet. Everyone loved her. Kelly was a wonderful person,” she said in a statement.

Raymond Green Vance

Raymond Green Vance, 22, went to Club Q on Saturday night with his girlfriend, Kassy Fierro, and her father, Rich, the co-owner of Atrevida Beer Co., a local brewery in Colorado Springs. The group was there to celebrate a friend's birthday.

“My sweet baby. I'll never be able to heal from this. I want to wake up from this horrendous nightmare. I pray u hear me when I call for you. I'm so sorry. ill never forgive myself for taking everyone there. I will love you til the day I get to come back home to your arms," Kassy Fierro wrote in a Facebook post.

Vance's family in a statement described him as a kind, selfless man with a promising future. He worked at a FedEx Distribution Center, loved video games and was “willing to go out of his way to help anyone,” the family said.

“Raymond was the victim of a man who unleashed terror on innocent people out with family and friends,” they wrote in the statement.

Ashley Paugh

Ashley Paugh, 35, was a loving mother and wife with a “huge heart,” said her husband, Kurt Paugh. She volunteered with an organization that helped children in foster care and delivered Christmas trees to the homes in which they were placed to brighten their holiday seasons.

“She was my high school sweetheart — and she was just an amazing mother. Her daughter was her whole world,” her husband said in a statement.

She also enjoyed hunting, fishing and riding four-wheelers.

A resident of La Junta, a 7,500-person town about a two-hour's drive from Colorado Springs, Paugh was visiting for the day with a friend when they went to Club Q on Saturday night for a comedy act. She was scheduled to organize the delivery of trees to homes with foster children in Pueblo and Colorado Springs this week, her husband said.

We lift them up in prayer

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